For kids a lot of the decisions are made for them. My husband and I have been making a conscious effort to give our girls more choices over all the regular ins and outs of the day. We give choices for them to tailor their meals within reason. We give a window of time for them to choose to head to bed. And I have begun letting my little one pick what we do for an entire morning at least one day a week while her big sister is at school.
Most the time they make really great choices even without set options. Today was waffles for breakfast. My youngest chose to spend the morning on a long walk at the park followed by a little playtime at the playground. Lunch was black bean nachos with black olives and avocado. They each chose two books before their quiet time and they both went without a fuss.
Will it always be this smooth? No. Most of these things they have always had some say over anyway so it isn't a major change. But the focus on how we are wording things helps to show them their opinion really is respected and they do hold power over their day.
Isn't that what we all crave? We all want to be heard and to have a little control. As adults we have that...sometimes we may even want to give a little of that back. Kids are no different.
I'm grateful for the fun we are having with letting the kids have more say. I'm grateful for the way it helps transitions go more smoothly. I'm grateful for a beautiful morning walk with my little one. I'm grateful she is happily content just wandering along a path and exploring where it goes. I'm grateful to hear her speaking up for what she wants. I'm grateful my oldest has always had a strong voice and opinions about things. I'm grateful to practice giving her more choices and watching her grow into that role.
What choices have you made today? What will you choose differently tomorrow? Which choices brought you joy?
May our choices be conscious and intentional. May we make choices that lead us toward joy. Have a beautiful day!