It wouldn't have been such a big deal if she wasn't lock kneed, holding her poop in all morning. It felt like she was saving it specifically for the pool. And on week four as I walked, embarrassingly, out of the pool for the fourth week in a row to change her; she laughed about pooping in the pool.
This week my anxiety was on edge between no sleep and being unsure how to address it. I had tried talking to her about it and telling her it was a no no. I had tried giving her foods the night before to make her poop. I had tried giving her breakfast to stop her up. And as I stood before her watching her lock her knees, refusing to go to the potty I felt overwhelmed.
I gave her an ultimatum. I told her if she pooped in her swim diaper, swim lessons were all done. No more swim lessons for the summer if she pooped in the pool. Then I bribed. I told her I would give her a cookie if her swim diaper stayed clean.
When I got to swim class I shared my bribe and ultimatum with the other moms and teacher. Rather than only check her in the middle and end of class, I checked her every five minutes. Each time I checked she was clean and the whole class of moms, teacher included, would cheer for her and tell her how great it was that her swim diaper was clean. All that positive attention worked and we made it through swim class with a clean diaper.
I'm beyond grateful to have a great swim teacher for my daughter. I'm grateful for the other mom's in the class that helped me make it a big deal and a big celebration for my daughter. I'm grateful to have broken the cycle, at least for this week. I'm grateful for the wonderful village I have helping me raise my daughter, give me tips, and listen to me vent. I'm grateful to have a partner that is an active parent and helps me brainstorm. And I'm grateful for my smart, determined, sweet, social child that makes each day a new adventure.
What do you rely on your village for during challenges? Who do you consider to be your village?
May today remind us we are not alone. May we fine people to brainstorm with and people to cheer us on as we travel our path. Have a beautiful day!