I've often heard not to compare our lives to movies because real life isn't simple. Yet if you've watched the fairytales, princesses locked in castles or poisoned apples, turning people to ice if you touch them. Sounds like they don't have a picture perfect life either. For that matter, I think I'll take my little real life frustrations and even heartbreak over that crap.
There has been some controversy over Facebook having a negative effect because some people use it to compare lives. Usually I remind clients that people try to put their best foot forward in public. Yet by reading Facebook posts it seems plenty of people air their dirt on there so then what is the controversy? What are you choosing to see there?
There is no one set of guidelines for perfect. Even if we tried to set guidelines we wouldn't agree. Perfection only exists in the unique form we each already hold it. That perfection is synonymous with imperfection because the only difference is how you choose to perceive it. We all have baggage! We all have things we are trying to shift about ourselves; things we want to heal. That is ok!
I cried today. I cry when I am frustrated. I cry when I feel I'm not holding myself to the level of patience I want to be at and I cry because I know this is a demand I hold only to myself. It is at times unreasonable and I recognize this strive for a perfection that is outside of my true, and already held, perfection. And I cry when I let it go.
The ideas I share, and the tips I use to coach, are not to make you perfect. You already are! They do not make me perfect beyond the perfection that I inherently hold, that is messy and my own. I do not coach to be "better than" or to make you "better than". I coach so that you will find the tools you want, to create your life in a loving way. So that you may see the beautiful person that I see in you. And so I may be a constant reminder to myself of the tools to see myself as the beautiful person that I am to you.
I'm grateful for the reminder to let go of a lofty ideal of perfection. I'm grateful to embrace who I am in my own unique perfection. I'm grateful for loved ones that help me see it when I forget. And I'm grateful to admit I do sometimes forget. I'm grateful to be hugged and spun by the love of my life. And I'm grateful to recover from a morning of struggle knowing today will be a great day.
Welcome to real life. Welcome to the beauty of your own perfection, no matter what that may look like today or shift to tomorrow. How will you choose to see life today? How can you give yourself love for being the person you are in this moment?
May today bless you with gentleness. May you be supported by the wonderful people around you. And may you know that everyone is speaking from their own experience. Have a beautiful day!