Last night when my phone rang I knew it was not going to be a "hey girlie, what's up with you these days?" kind of chat. It wasn't just the time of the call or the person on the other end. It was a gut feeling.
The beauty of receiving a call last night that required full focus and whole heart is that for the first time in two and half years I had the house to myself at night. My husband is off on a trip, meaning my work schedule is a little wacky this week. My mom was going to be watching my daughter all day today and rather than get up early to drive over here she recommended my daughter, and dog, just spend the night there last night. So when the call came in there were no distractions, no child to be getting ready for bed or dog whining for attention.
This is what I call divine timing. I could not have planned for it. Instead it was set up so that my focus would be free to give to my friend during her time of need. And as she shared the overwhelming challenge presented to her right now all I could do was listen. I searched my brain for some magic words that could help make it better but there just aren't any. I have been in a similar place and I know that often the best meaning words feel invalidating rather than comforting.
Instead the gift of listening says more than the best babbling the mind could spew. Listening says, first and foremost, you are heard and this space is yours to talk. Listening says I respect not only what you are saying but how you feel as you navigate this. Listening says I am truly present for you right now. And giving the gift of truly listening undistracted was a gift for me as well.
I'm so grateful for divine timing so that I could be one hundred percent present for that call. I'm grateful and honored that this friend chose me to call. I'm grateful for our friendship and all the challenges through which we have stood beside each other. I'm grateful to see and remind her of her strength. And I'm grateful for all the times she has done the same for me. I'm grateful to know she has some local support and I'm grateful for how a phone call can bring someone close even if the distance is far. I'm grateful for all the support I have here in so many ways.
What helps keep you present and listening? What words do you find wanting to come out when listening is all that is required? What words do you most like to hear when you are needing comfort? Who do you call to be truly heard?
May today remind us the power of listening. May we explore the words we want to say and truly ask if these words are for us or for the speaker. And may we be guided to give the best support we can to those who need us most. Have a beautiful day!