Usually I make it a point to not be on my phone when my kids are awake because I know they need attention and connection. During the shelter-in-place it has been pretty easy because I don't have clients that I have to schedule and respond to so I have mostly ditched my phone for hours at a time. The possibility and planning of going back to work has brought lots of texts as we all try to figure out what is needed, what protocols need put in place, and who will be allowed to come first.
Honesty goes a long way with kids so I decided to address the big issue first. "I am sick of this house too! I'm ready for things to open back up so we can go do fun things like the zoo and playdates and just get out. I would even be happy if the weather would at least cooperate so we could play on the deck and go for walks again."
She agreed but seemed a little confused, why were we here then? I reminded her why we are home and let her know that some things might start opening up again soon. But that also meant I would be returning to work soon and so I had to figure out how to do that safely and tell my clients what day they could come in.
Now she looked a little less sure about what she wanted. She has told me frequently during all this that she is so happy I don't work anymore. I hopped in as I saw her processing this potential bad news. I said, "since I don't have to go to work today or tomorrow, how about I put my phone down and we focus on having a dance party for now?"
There is a lot to get done in the coming days but I also have to remember to enjoy these last days and moments home with my girls. I have truly loved getting to spend so much quality time with them, not just shuttling between school and errands and playdates. I don't want to miss out on these moments of connection to answer a text that can wait until nap time without any negative impact.
I'm grateful for this reminder to stay present from my daughter. I'm grateful to be honest that being home is getting a little old. I'm grateful for the time home with my girls. I'm grateful for all the milestones I've witnessed. I'm grateful for all the beautiful moments as we navigated this new "adventure" together. I'm grateful things may be opening soon but grateful to keep a level head and make sure I feel it is safe for myself and my clients. I'm grateful to know we are all in this together.
Honestly, how are you doing as this covid-19 continues? What supports do you need? What will be changing for you and how do you feel about it?
May today remind us to stay present. May we be honest and use that honesty to guide us to make the best decisions moving forward. Have a beautiful day!