They are just little reminders on how fun each day can be. And a lot of the days are reminders about appreciating different service people or people in our lives.
Last night I got the email that today is National Ding-A-Ling Day. "What does that even mean?", I asked my husband. While I was content to leave it a question and take myself to bed, I had posed the question out loud. And my husband likes answers. The answer was easy to find with a quick google search and it turns out it is a day for calling old friends you have lost touch with and reconnecting.
I try to do this periodically anyway, keep up with friends and how their lives are going. But there are always those that seem to fall off the radar. As I lay in bed thinking last night about which friends it has been truly a while since I connected with I also did some honest evaluating.
Before I married my husband I had a lot of guy friends. I love camping and kayaking and disc golf and couldn't care less about make-up and clothes and all that. While I know these are just stereotypes, it still tended to leave me running with the guys. And while I believed them to be some of my best friends they all disappeared pretty quickly after I got married despite no issue on mine or my husband's part.
I also had a great group of spiritual family that I felt deeply connected. Yet as marriage and motherhood took more of my time I noticed I was the only one ever reaching out to connect with them. Even when I was truly struggling and reached out, I did not feel supported or the connection reciprocated.
I don't point these scenarios out with hurt or grudge. They simply are examples of how some people are only in our lives for a season. I point them out because as I thought about who I haven't connected with in a long time it also gave me pause on which connections I would truly like to bring back into my life. Which energy would I like to invite back in? Which connections were deeper?
I'm grateful to have recognized this lesson after years of reaching back to reconnect to people in my past that were meant to remain past. I'm grateful to stop wasting my energy, efforts, and heart connecting to those who are not moving forward with me. I'm grateful for all those friendships that have endured time and change and are still strong today. I'm grateful for my two best friends that have been by my side since childhood. I'm grateful for all we have been through together and to know that no distance or scenario will change that connection. I'm grateful for the new friends I have made since becoming a mom and I hope that at least a couple of those will be long term friendships. I'm grateful for my big heart and to keep past friends in well wishes even if I no longer make the unreciprocated effort to connect. I'm grateful for ding-a-ling day and the reminder to connect with those who are important to us. I'm grateful my husband looked it up when I was content to brush it off. And I'm grateful to evaluate who I want to surround myself with as I decide who to reconnect with today.
Who would you like to reconnect with today? What energy, love, and support do they provide? What do you give them in return? Which relationships' seasons are for the past?
May today remind us we are always supported even if the faces change. May we find a good mix of lifelong friends and seasonal friends as we grow and change. And may we connect with the people who help us be our best selves. Have a beautiful day!