Life has taken us different directions and to different areas and yet we still chat frequently through text or messenger. We compare our motherhood journeys, share relationship tips, and lean on each other through struggles. I cannot imagine life without my cousins.
My daughter will not have that experience. Between starting a family later in life and the frustrating realities of fertility woes, my daughter will most likely only have three cousins. Two of the three will be in college next year and she has met each of them maybe twice. The third is one of the coolest and most interesting pre-teens I'm had the pleasure of meeting.
I myself have only gotten to hang out with her maybe a dozen times as she lives in a different state. My daughter has met her maybe half a dozen times. Both girls are extremely smart so it is fun to see a little preview of what my daughter may be like in nearly nine more years.
Yesterday my niece came for a visit. It didn't take long for my daughter to pal right up to her and my niece has been awesome being led around as the littlest dictator informs my niece what she wants to do. It warms my heart to see them hanging out. It is only for a couple days but I hope it will start a bond. I hope that we can get together more often so that my daughter will at least have one cousin bond.
My daughter probably will not get the experience I had of cousins that were practically sisters. But she does have the opportunity to get to know her cousins if we make the effort. She has great friends her age that will maybe someday become like a sisterhood to fill that other space. But family is different; Family is forever. Family is a link to both past and future.
I'm so grateful for my unique experience with cousins growing up. I'm grateful for the abundance of cousins I had and to still get to keep in contact with them all over the world through the use of social media. I'm grateful for my sisterhood of cousins that I hold so dear. I'm grateful to get to chat with them just last night. I'm grateful my niece came to visit. I'm grateful that even with the large age difference my sweet niece takes the time to spend quality time playing and laughing with my daughter. I'm grateful for the closeness she has with her aunt and uncle that live in the area to forge those strong family bonds even without cousins. And I'm grateful to know even with her different experience than mine, she will be blessed with an abundance of love and connection.
Do you have cousins? Are you close to them? Who took on the role of siblings or deep connections for you beyond your actual siblings?
May today strengthen our bonds to those we love. May we give thanks for all the amazing people who have helped us become who we are today. Have a beautiful day!