In college most of my best Valentine's celebrations were out with my girlfriends. We would watch a movie, have some icecream, and just celebrate how ever we felt like it. And there were a couple years as a single adult that I took myself out to dinner, just me, and followed it with a self-care night. There is a misconception that it is sad or hard to eat alone. Really, in my experience, the only difficult part was the big deal made by one waiter that I was alone which resulted in a free dessert.
Now that I am married I'm grateful that my husband feels similar to me about how to celebrate. I don't need a box of chocolates. Honestly, most the fillings I wouldn't even like. I don't need roses that will die in a couple days. I don't need gifts because to me LOVE is the gift we are celebrating and we already have it. It isn't in an object to be given.
For me, the perfect celebration is getting away from the stove and oven, going out to the grill and pretending it is Springtime already. I want a good steak and some veggies grilled up like it's warm out so I can pretend it isn't going to snow again tomorrow. Valentine's Day, for me, is about sitting down to a meal with my love because most the week we work opposite shifts and don't get to actually eat together.
I'm grateful for the beautiful temperatures yesterday. I'm grateful the snow will hold off for us to cook our steaks tonight. I'm grateful for my husband's help in creating the fantasy of it being Spring. I'm grateful to choose my own way to celebrate Valentine's Day. I'm grateful for all the years celebrated with my girlfriends. I'm grateful for the years celebrating myself, by myself. I'm grateful for the perspective and strength it gave me to see the silly misconceptions and judgments that were the opposite of what I was feeling. But I was grateful for that free dessert. I'm grateful to have another year with my love to celebrate together. I'm grateful for our beautiful daughter and to have another one on the way as we grow our family. I'm grateful to start teaching them early on that celebrations don't have to follow commercialism, unless that truly pleases you. Most of all I'm grateful to celebrate together.
How do you celebrate Valentine's Day? Which type of love will you choose to honor this year?
May we all find a love to celebrate and cherish today. May we remember to celebrate a love for ourselves always. And may we let those we love know how special they are today and every day. Have a beautiful day!