Today was my uncle's funeral and I found myself in a struggle with my beliefs. One thing about having my own, unique beliefs is that when there is a conundrum it's answer is completely dependent on me. If I am at an impasse I need to know the right question to ask to help me move through the obstacle. Luckily I am blessed to have just such a mentor!
The thing about beliefs is that everyone has them in one form or another. So when someone questions their own it is easy to project ours for them to see. They still have the option to listen or not. But what if we went a whole different way? What if we helped guide them through their own beliefs instead of planting our own?
As I let my tears fall tonight talking to my dear friend and mentor she offered me this gift. It isn't what we believe or don't believe that poses the problem. The issue comes from why we are choosing to resist one belief or cling to another. The question isn't which belief is right. The question is what is it about the gap that triggers us.
I'm so grateful for powerful questions. I'm grateful for questions that pull me back and make me think. I'm grateful for this beautiful woman and all her wisdom. I'm grateful to be able to call her a friend as well as a mentor. I'm grateful for the beautiful memories my uncle has left with us still here. I'm grateful to see others remembering him for the safe generosity and kindness that I will remember him by. I'm grateful for the reminder to be the person today I want to be remembered by tomorrow.
Who in your life asks the right questions instead of giving you their own answer?
May we find our own path and our own beliefs while respecting each others'. May we find peace within what we choose to believe. May we all have at least one person in our lives willing to hold their own answers and just ask the right questions. Have a beautiful day!